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    Allow him to be your hero
    aavruch
    • Jan 1, 2018
    • 2 min

    Allow him to be your hero

    This probably comes as a big surprise, but... your husband wants to be your knight in shining armor. When you give him that opportunity -...
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    When All You Can See is the Black Dot
    Alisa Avruch
    • Apr 29
    • 2 min

    When All You Can See is the Black Dot

    Have you ever noticed that we are far more likely to notice the negatives than the positives? To test out this trait, try this experiment...
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    Submissive wife - Or Mekabel?
    Alisa Avruch
    • Dec 19, 2021
    • 3 min

    Submissive wife - Or Mekabel?

    Have you been hearing what I'm hearing? An article in Mishpacha Magazine. A podcast episode on Headlines. All addressing the question:...
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    When logic just isn't enough.
    Alisa Avruch
    • Oct 19, 2021
    • 3 min

    When logic just isn't enough.

    Sometimes your brain and your heart just can't seem to get along. It happens, oh, probably hundreds of times a day - when you KNOW you...
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    What's your excuse?
    Alisa Avruch
    • Jul 26, 2021
    • 3 min

    What's your excuse?

    Appreciation is a tricky thing. On the one hand, we know it's a nice thing to do. It creates warm feelings. And we certainly like it when...
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    What I learned from Shamu
    Alisa Avruch
    • Jul 11, 2021
    • 3 min

    What I learned from Shamu

    He may be a whale, but he sure does have a lot to teach us about relationships. I'm always on the lookout for practical tips that will...
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    Don't you wish there was an Adulting class?
    Alisa Avruch
    • Jun 20, 2021
    • 3 min

    Don't you wish there was an Adulting class?

    Why is it that we learned all the stuff we don't need and don't remember, while the rules of Real Life we are left to figure out on our...
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    Your husband is not your home-improvement project
    Alisa Avruch
    • May 6, 2021
    • 2 min

    Your husband is not your home-improvement project

    Does it feel like you're holding your world together with the strength of your own two hands? What would happen if you didn't feel the...
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    How I got Cancelled on Instagram
    Alisa Avruch
    • May 6, 2021
    • 3 min

    How I got Cancelled on Instagram

    I knew that some of the concepts in the Secret Spark are not universally appreciated (especially by people who have never actually...
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    Hey - What About the Men?
    Alisa Avruch
    • Feb 18, 2021
    • 2 min

    Hey - What About the Men?

    I sometimes get asked: Do you teach men, too? Or Why do you only teach women and not men? Or Why do most marriage coaches, speakers, and...
    83 views0 comments
    When he forgets the most important day of the year...
    Alisa Avruch
    • Feb 18, 2021
    • 2 min

    When he forgets the most important day of the year...

    Sora had a beautiful relationship with her husband, Ezra. They were perfectly matched. Not because they liked the same style of music –...
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    Try a Double Take
    Alisa Avruch
    • Feb 14, 2021
    • 2 min

    Try a Double Take

    There’s a feature that I love in Mishpacha Magazine. It’s called Double Take, and it’s a fictional story told twice: once from the...
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    Don't fix your problems (do this instead)
    Alisa Avruch
    • Jan 31, 2021
    • 2 min

    Don't fix your problems (do this instead)

    I know how it is. You have so many things you wish you could change in your marriage - or in your husband. You wish he would help more he...
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    Getting his attention
    Alisa Avruch
    • May 14, 2020
    • 2 min

    Getting his attention

    You know you want him to listen to you - but how do you actually get him to do it? The answer may be a lot simpler than you think. So I...
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    Hearing his Heart Message
    aavruch
    • May 11, 2020
    • 2 min

    Hearing his Heart Message

    You don't always have to agree with your husband. But what if you could minimize conflict and increase emotional intimacy, all with 3...
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    The one skill that will change everything
    aavruch
    • Jul 10, 2019
    • 2 min

    The one skill that will change everything

    You can easily come up with a list of your husband's faults, right? But what if you tried coming up with a different list? Malki was...
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    The sweetest words
    aavruch
    • Jul 10, 2019
    • 2 min

    The sweetest words

    Sure, communication is important. You know what you need, and you know what you want. In fact, you usually know the "rules" for running a...
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    Your husband, the talmid chacham
    aavruch
    • Jul 10, 2019
    • 2 min

    Your husband, the talmid chacham

    Do you have engraved on your brain that it's your job to encourage your husband to learn? Sure, a wife has an equal share in her...
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    Borrow his brain
    aavruch
    • Jul 10, 2019
    • 2 min

    Borrow his brain

    When you ask his advice, you may just get a whole bunch of side benefits that you didn't expect. Did you ever have a decision to make?...
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    I empower frum women be change agents in their marriage, bringing deeper connection and emotional intimacy to their relationships through hands-on skills and mindset shifts. 

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