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clean for pesach - protect your marriage
You've met them before. The mom who discovers that her 3 year old has been feeding chocolate cake to her lifelike baby doll (look, mommy,...
Alisa Avruch
Apr 72 min read
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Find evidence
Here's a (true) story about Kayla (not her real name - but you knew that already ;) Kayla had complaints about her husband. In fact, she...
zairraleighrarugal
Oct 31, 20241 min read
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That's my guy!
If you're married, I've got good news and bad news. The bad news is - the vast majority of your husband's character traits that bother...
zairraleighrarugal
Oct 13, 20242 min read
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She Says, He Hears
I'm sure you can identify with this quote from Alan Greenspan:  "I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I'm not...
zairraleighrarugal
Oct 13, 20242 min read
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Rochel - or Devorah?
You dreamed of being Rochel, Eishes Rabbi Akiva. You were willing to sacrifice everything, everything for his learning. (Well maybe not...
Alisa Avruch
May 27, 20241 min read
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What about being Mevater?
I was recently speaking to a lovely group of women. (In person! Sitting on chairs! Just like in the good old days!) We were speaking...
Alisa Avruch
Apr 1, 20242 min read
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A lesson from the Brits
Full disclosure: I'm not the adventurous type. But when our summer flight from Israel to the States had a layover in England, I went...
Alisa Avruch
Oct 31, 20232 min read
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And the men too, of course
I want to share a fascinating experience I had when attending a round table discussion at a conference. There were amazing coaches at the...
Alisa Avruch
Jul 5, 20232 min read
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You don't want to EXPLODE, do you?
You co-worker is out with the flu - again - and her workload got dumped on you. You flew out of work a few minutes late - straight into...
Alisa Avruch
Jul 5, 20232 min read
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Hard Work? Not with the right Tools
The letter said it all. A young woman, wondering why she should want to get married. What went wrong? Well, it started with good...
Alisa Avruch
Mar 22, 20231 min read
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A Gift By Any Other Name
Before I proceed, full disclosure: I personally am not a gift person. I don't ask for or expect gifts, and I'm fine buying the things I...
Alisa Avruch
Jan 24, 20233 min read
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Rediscovering the Extinct DMC
When was the last time you had a DMC with your husband? a. Why, last week, of course b. I don't know, but it was definitely before our...
Alisa Avruch
Jan 24, 20232 min read
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The 2 Word Shalom Bayis Class. (Or not.)
I recently heard someone suggest that shalom bayis classes are really unnecessary. After all, you just need to know 2 words in order to...
Alisa Avruch
Jan 24, 20232 min read
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There's a Jewish Marriage App for that (or at least there should be)
Ever have one of Those conversations? You know, the one where you say something perfectly sensible to your husband... and before you know...
Alisa Avruch
Sep 4, 20223 min read
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Finding your Prince
Are you a frog farmer? Um. Excuse me? Oh, right. Let's start from the beginning. Once upon a time, there was a princess. Blah, blah,...
Alisa Avruch
Aug 4, 20222 min read
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When All You Can See is the Black Dot
Have you ever noticed that we are far more likely to notice the negatives than the positives? To test out this trait, try this experiment...
Alisa Avruch
Apr 28, 20222 min read
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Submissive wife - Or Mekabel?
Have you been hearing what I'm hearing? An article in Mishpacha Magazine. A podcast episode on Headlines. All addressing the question:...
Alisa Avruch
Dec 19, 20213 min read
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When logic just isn't enough.
Sometimes your brain and your heart just can't seem to get along. It happens, oh, probably hundreds of times a day - when you KNOW you...
Alisa Avruch
Oct 18, 20213 min read
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What's your excuse?
Appreciation is a tricky thing. On the one hand, we know it's a nice thing to do. It creates warm feelings. And we certainly like it when...
Alisa Avruch
Jul 25, 20213 min read
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What I learned from Shamu
He may be a whale, but he sure does have a lot to teach us about relationships. I'm always on the lookout for practical tips that will...
Alisa Avruch
Jul 11, 20213 min read
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Your husband is not your home-improvement project
Does it feel like you're holding your world together with the strength of your own two hands? What would happen if you didn't feel the...
Alisa Avruch
May 5, 20212 min read
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How I got Cancelled on Instagram
Have you checked out the Between Carpools website lately? You may have seen the article I posted a few weeks ago , In it, I listed some...
Alisa Avruch
May 5, 20213 min read
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Hey - What About the Men?
I sometimes get asked: Do you teach men, too? Or Why do you only teach women and not men? Or Why do most marriage coaches, speakers, and...
Alisa Avruch
Feb 17, 20212 min read
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When he forgets the most important day of the year...
Sora had a beautiful relationship with her husband, Ezra. They were perfectly matched. Not because they liked the same style of music –...
Alisa Avruch
Feb 17, 20212 min read
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Try a Double Take
There’s a feature that I love in Mishpacha Magazine. It’s called Double Take, and it’s a fictional story told twice: once from the...
Alisa Avruch
Feb 14, 20212 min read
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Don't fix your problems (do this instead)
I know how it is. You have so many things you wish you could change in your marriage - or in your husband. You wish he would help more he...
Alisa Avruch
Jan 31, 20212 min read
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Getting his attention
You know you want him to listen to you - but how do you actually get him to do it? The answer may be a lot simpler than you think. So I...
Alisa Avruch
May 13, 20202 min read
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Hearing his Heart Message
You don't always have to agree with your husband. But what if you could minimize conflict and increase emotional intimacy, all with 3...
aavruch
May 11, 20202 min read
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The one skill that will change everything
You can easily come up with a list of your husband's faults, right? But what if you tried coming up with a different list? Malki was...
aavruch
Jul 10, 20192 min read
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The sweetest words
Sure, communication is important. You know what you need, and you know what you want. In fact, you usually know the "rules" for running a...
aavruch
Jul 10, 20192 min read
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