Hard Work? Not with the right Tools
The letter said it all. A young woman, wondering why she should want to get married. What went wrong? Well, it started with good...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jan 24
- 3 min
A Gift By Any Other Name
Before I proceed, full disclosure: I personally am not a gift person. I don't ask for or expect gifts, and I'm fine buying the things I...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jan 24
- 2 min
Rediscovering the Extinct DMC
When was the last time you had a DMC with your husband? a. Why, last week, of course b. I don't know, but it was definitely before our...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jan 24
- 2 min
The 2 Word Shalom Bayis Class. (Or not.)
I recently heard someone suggest that shalom bayis classes are really unnecessary. After all, you just need to know 2 words in order to...
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Alisa Avruch
- Sep 4, 2022
- 3 min
There's an App for that (or at least there should be)
Ever have one of Those conversations? You know, the one where you say something perfectly sensible to your husband... and before you know...
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Alisa Avruch
- Aug 4, 2022
- 2 min
Finding your Prince
Are you a frog farmer? Um. Excuse me? Oh, right. Let's start from the beginning. Once upon a time, there was a princess. Blah, blah,...
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Alisa Avruch
- Apr 28, 2022
- 2 min
When All You Can See is the Black Dot
Have you ever noticed that we are far more likely to notice the negatives than the positives? To test out this trait, try this experiment...
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Alisa Avruch
- Dec 19, 2021
- 3 min
Submissive wife - Or Mekabel?
Have you been hearing what I'm hearing? An article in Mishpacha Magazine. A podcast episode on Headlines. All addressing the question:...
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Alisa Avruch
- Oct 18, 2021
- 3 min
When logic just isn't enough.
Sometimes your brain and your heart just can't seem to get along. It happens, oh, probably hundreds of times a day - when you KNOW you...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jul 25, 2021
- 3 min
What's your excuse?
Appreciation is a tricky thing. On the one hand, we know it's a nice thing to do. It creates warm feelings. And we certainly like it when...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jul 11, 2021
- 3 min
What I learned from Shamu
He may be a whale, but he sure does have a lot to teach us about relationships. I'm always on the lookout for practical tips that will...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jun 20, 2021
- 3 min
Don't you wish there was an Adulting class?
Why is it that we learned all the stuff we don't need and don't remember, while the rules of Real Life we are left to figure out on our...
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Alisa Avruch
- May 5, 2021
- 2 min
Your husband is not your home-improvement project
Does it feel like you're holding your world together with the strength of your own two hands? What would happen if you didn't feel the...
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Alisa Avruch
- May 5, 2021
- 3 min
How I got Cancelled on Instagram
I knew that some of the concepts in the Secret Spark are not universally appreciated (especially by people who have never actually...
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Alisa Avruch
- Feb 17, 2021
- 2 min
Hey - What About the Men?
I sometimes get asked: Do you teach men, too? Or Why do you only teach women and not men? Or Why do most marriage coaches, speakers, and...
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Alisa Avruch
- Feb 17, 2021
- 2 min
When he forgets the most important day of the year...
Sora had a beautiful relationship with her husband, Ezra. They were perfectly matched. Not because they liked the same style of music –...
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Alisa Avruch
- Feb 14, 2021
- 2 min
Try a Double Take
There’s a feature that I love in Mishpacha Magazine. It’s called Double Take, and it’s a fictional story told twice: once from the...
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Alisa Avruch
- Jan 31, 2021
- 2 min
Don't fix your problems (do this instead)
I know how it is. You have so many things you wish you could change in your marriage - or in your husband. You wish he would help more he...
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Alisa Avruch
- May 13, 2020
- 2 min
Getting his attention
You know you want him to listen to you - but how do you actually get him to do it? The answer may be a lot simpler than you think. So I...
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aavruch
- May 11, 2020
- 2 min
Hearing his Heart Message
You don't always have to agree with your husband. But what if you could minimize conflict and increase emotional intimacy, all with 3...
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aavruch
- Jul 10, 2019
- 2 min
The one skill that will change everything
You can easily come up with a list of your husband's faults, right? But what if you tried coming up with a different list? Malki was...
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aavruch
- Jul 10, 2019
- 2 min
The sweetest words
Sure, communication is important. You know what you need, and you know what you want. In fact, you usually know the "rules" for running a...
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aavruch
- Jul 10, 2019
- 2 min
Your husband, the talmid chacham
Do you have engraved on your brain that it's your job to encourage your husband to learn? Sure, a wife has an equal share in her...
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aavruch
- Jul 10, 2019
- 2 min
Borrow his brain
When you ask his advice, you may just get a whole bunch of side benefits that you didn't expect. Did you ever have a decision to make?...
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