The question every frum wife needs to answer
For the frum woman who does everything
You hold the home together
You give, you plan, you show up
You keep everything running.
So why does your marriage still feel like it's one more thing on your to-do list?
Here's what no one ever told you:
You don't need a different husband.
You need a different approach.
In this 6-module live + recorded course, you'll learn how to transform your marriage from the inside out – without trying to fix, change, or convince him of anything.
You dreamed of a story-book marriage.
Of joyful days and peaceful nights.
Of DMC’s and laughter and cozy dinners.
Of spending the rest of your life with your Best Friend.
And then you came down to earth...
There’s Real Life, after all.
Laundry. Shopping. Work. Deadlines.
Socks on the floor. Dishes in the sink.
In-laws. Simchas. Differences of opinion.
Annoyance. Frustration. Friction.
You make a statement, and suddenly he goes cold. And you don’t even understand what triggered him.
You make a simple suggestion, and you find yourself stuck in that familiar spiral of conflict.
You’re so busy with chores, appointments, finances… you feel like you’re partners in the Family Business.
You’re not miserable
but not gloriously happy either.
What Were You Expecting?
A knight in shining armor to swoop down
and ride off with you into the sunset?
No, of course not.
Well, maybe kinda.
Cuz’ you wish you had better communication.
An understanding of where your husband is coming from.
That delicious feeling of being understood, and loved for who you are.
You’re yearning for a deeper emotional connection.
Is That Too Much to Ask?
This isn’t what you bargained for.
This isn’t the marriage you dreamed of.
And you’re wondering if you’re the only one feeling so challenged.
That nagging sense of dissatisfaction spills over into every area of your life.
You’re less secure, and more stressed. Suffering through the bumpy stretches and bracing yourself during the smooth rides.
It takes two to tango – and sometimes you wish your husband would take a few shalom bayis classes. (Yeah, like that’s going to happen).
Your emotional wellbeing is inextricably tied to your most crucial relationship – and you wish it was, well, sweeter.
Because your marriage isn’t just another thing
on your plate.
It IS the plate.
What if your marriage could be the calm oasis that you can confidently retreat to?
What if you could have that deeper emotional intimacy you always dreamed of?
But…
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How can you create change if your husband is not on board?
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How can you find the time and energy when you are so consumed by your family’s needs?
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How do you get a deeper connection, anyway?
You didn’t get much training for the career of a lifetime.
A few hashkafa classes in Sem.
Some tidbits here and there sprinkled through kallah classes.
Then, the whirlwind of preparation for The Night you’d been anticipating since you were six years old, dreaming of sparkly gowns twirling in the moonlight.
Beachy curls or updo? Orchids or lilies? Taffeta or organza?
Was your wedding the happiest day
of your life?
(And does that mean it was
downhill from there?)
You were thrust into the realities of building a relationship.
Step by faltering step.
And you wondered – why did I spend 12 years of my life being taught about square roots and dangling participles and unicellular paramecium (and 1,743,956 other irrelevant factoids)...
…and no one taught me about THIS?
You tried to figure it out on your own.
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A blog post.
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A book.
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A lecture delivered by an earnest Rebbetzin extolling the importance of Shalom Bayis.
“Be Mevater,” they said.
“Give more. Communicate better.”
You learned about I-messages, respect, and giving.
You made his favorite suppers, tried not to interrupt his learning, and got off the phone when he came home.
Sometimes it even helped for a while. But then you were back to the same old patterns.
Because you learned inspiring hashkafos about the value of peace, the beauty of giving, the Shechina dwelling in your home….
…But they somehow got lost in the overflowing garbage cans, the frantic erev Shabbosim, the misunderstandings and the arguments and the resentment.
You’ve tried every combination of words in the English Language to communicate your dissatisfaction and present the obvious solutions of what your husband ‘just needs to do’ to provide you with your dream marriage.
It’s not working. It never did.
Which begs the question:
If you can’t change him – well, then how will anything ever change?
And you wonder – is this the way it’s always going to be?
Finally…
Secret Spark
Foundations
The tools for a deeper connection
Where you will question your beliefs about what makes a relationship work.
Where you will get a fresh look on marriage and a more encompassing take on the nature of men and women.
MORE IMPORTANTLY -
WHERE YOU WILL LEARN TO TRANSLATE THAT AWARENESS INTO THE PRACTICAL, HANDS-ON SKILLS TO NAVIGATE THOSE BUMPS IN THE ROAD.
Grounded in the Torah-true concepts of Mashpia/Mekabel, The Secret Spark is much more than nice hashkafos and beautiful ideals.
At The Secret Spark, you will walk out of every class with actionable processes, words and mindset techniques to decrease conflict, increase calm, and deepen your connection with your husband.
Because it IS possible to have an amazing, fulfilling marriage.
But it doesn’t happen because you married
the Right Person.
It happens when you are empowered with tools that will take you step by step to the relationship of your dreams.
Just imagine…
Your husband looking at you with that twinkle in his eye - just like in the early days of your relationship
More love, more fun, more laughter - without the worries of stress coming up just around the corner
A warm and delicious sense of emotional intimacy, as your relationship grows progressively deeper
Secret Spark Foundations empowers women like you to be change agents in their marriage with
Actionable skills so you know exactly what to say to not only avoid conflict – but to increase intimacy
Practical, step-by-step instructions to address your husband’s deepest needs – and your own
The tools to show up as the wife you want to be… and to self-actualize the person you want to be.
All with the support, encouragement and accountability of a group of like-minded women.
It’s what you needed all along – but never knew.
And The Best Part is:
The Secret Spark puts all the power in your hands.
You’re the one in control.
You’re the one who has what it takes to transform your relationship – you just need to learn how.
You don’t have to convince your husband to read the right book or go to a class. You don’t need to “convince” him to do anything at all.
All you have to do is focus on yourself.
Your behaviors. Your words. Your mindset.
And just like that – the dynamic shifts.
Suddenly your husband becomes the
person you married in the first place.
You’re building the emotional intimacy you’re craving,
as your relationship continuously grows deeper and closer.
And you realize that marriage doesn’t have to be so hard, after all.
Because when you become a true
Mekabel – everything changes.
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Here's what women are saying after using the Secret Spark Foundations skills...
FAST, TRANSFORMATIVE CHANGE
" It's unreal how much my marriage gained !"
Just wanted to tell you it's been a few weeks now after practicing all the skills. It's unreal how much I see my marriage gained from this! Cannot thank you enough!
C.F.
THE POWER TO CHANGE THE DANCE
"My husband was blown away."
Almost every skill that was implemented, my husband was blown away... it was amazing to see! I'm not sure he realized that I was consciously doing something but the comments that he had made after different interactions were well worth the effort I had put in!
BF
B.F.
LIFE-CHANGING - EVEN AFTER 30 YEARS OF MARRIAGE
"I’m finding the skills and tips you are sharing to be so helpful and life-changing."
Being married 30 plus years, I can say that there are so many wonderful parts of our marriage B”H, but there are also so many areas that over the years I wished I knew how to change or improve, whether in myself or my husband.
There were many times when I felt that it was my husband who should “change”, but it’s so true that if you want to change the world, start with yourself! I’m finding the skills and tips you are sharing to be so helpful and life-changing. My feelings about certain things, and my attitude as well, are shifting in a certain direction that enables me to grow in my relationship with my husband.
P.G.
MORE LOVE, MORE TOGETHERNESS
"We are more in love now, and respect each other despite our differences."
We spent too many years on raising our kids and neglecting our own relationship. I practiced the skills, my husband responded by wanting to spend more time with me and even initiating it! We are more in love now, and respect each other despite our differences.
D.R.
Aren’t you Ready to Get The Deeper Connection You Always Dreamed of?
At Secret Spark Foundations, you get
6 bi-weekly live, interactive Zoom classes
Bi-weekly, deep-dive classes with Q&A, where you learn the Foundations skills and see exactly how to apply them in real-life marriage moments.
Ongoing email reminders & support
Inspiring stories, reminders, and extra tips that keep you focused, encouraged, and moving forward between classes.
Inspiring guest speakers
Special sessions with Gila Levitt, Yael Trusch and Tamar Ansh, each bringing another layer of chizuk and practical tools for your marriage and home.
Personal access for your questions
Ask your questions by private text or email and get personal guidance, so you never feel stuck trying to figure it out alone.
You’ve put time, effort and money into perfecting your parenting, your chinuch, your tablescapes and your yom tov menus.
Isn’t it about time you invested in the one thing that affects YOU most profoundly – today and every day for the rest of your life?
"The value your course gives is in the little things that are big things but don’t necessitate the therapy couch."
Over the years I did not know where to go for help. Was it counseling? I turned to books and educated myself on what I could, but the value your course gives is in the little things that are big things but don’t necessitate the therapy couch. And for bringing Torah sources that this is how Hashem intended our roles to be.
I wish I had learned [all this] long ago. I’m so happy I took this course to strengthen and continue to
strengthen these skills, and my marriage benefits daily.
G. Y.
"Wish I had taken this class 24 years ago…"
...and here I thought I was "helping...suggesting...fixing...
clarifying"
...and simply reacting... Although ingrained habits are difficult to unlearn, I can now hear myself suggest, correct, or comment and can now realize there is a better way of interacting with my husband than what I have been doing...Expressing myself should not be at his expense,even if my motive was to "help"....,just keeping quiet and being supportive can really be a better path!
G.P.
"It's only two days in, and I'm already seeing a shift!"
I read a whole bunch of your testimonials from previous students before signing up for the course, and my thought was "Wow! I wish I'll also see such changes at the end of the course!" Anyway, it's only two days in, and I'm already seeing a shift! Thanks again for giving me this opportunity to enhance my relationship, and I'm looking forward to the rest of the classes!
S. H.
"As soon as I started
implementing the first skill, I saw a change almost immediately"
I have a wonderful husband B"H, but there was conflict. I was also looking for a deeper connection and way to communicate better with my husband. I felt like I would often say the wrong thing that would make him upset, without realizing why he was reacting so strongly.
In the beginning, as soon as I started
implementing the first skill, I saw a change almost immediately (within a week). My husband responded positively. I saw that he was more open to helping me take care of things, when he felt more appreciated and respected. I was amazed at how simple the skills were, yet how big of an impact these little tiny changes can make in a relationship.
N.H.
"The value your course gives is in the little things that are big things but don’t necessitate the therapy couch."
Over the years I did not know where to go for help. Was it counseling? I turned to books and educated myself on what I could, but the value your course gives is in the little things that are big things but don’t necessitate the therapy couch. And for bringing Torah sources that this is how Hashem intended our roles to be.
I wish I had learned [all this] long ago. I’m so happy I took this course to strengthen and continue to
strengthen these skills, and my marriage benefits daily.
G. Y.
"Wish I had taken this class 24 years ago…"
...and here I thought I was "helping...suggesting...fixing...
clarifying"
...and simply reacting... Although ingrained habits are difficult to unlearn, I can now hear myself suggest, correct, or comment and can now realize there is a better way of interacting with my husband than what I have been doing...Expressing myself should not be at his expense,even if my motive was to "help"....,just keeping quiet and being supportive can really be a better path!
G.P.
"It's only two days in, and I'm already seeing a shift!"
I read a whole bunch of your testimonials from previous students before signing up for the course, and my thought was "Wow! I wish I'll also see such changes at the end of the course!" Anyway, it's only two days in, and I'm already seeing a shift! Thanks again for giving me this opportunity to enhance my relationship, and I'm looking forward to the rest of the classes!
S. H.
"As soon as I started
implementing the first skill, I saw a change almost immediately"
I have a wonderful husband B"H, but there was conflict. I was also looking for a deeper connection and way to communicate better with my husband. I felt like I would often say the wrong thing that would make him upset, without realizing why he was reacting so strongly.
In the beginning, as soon as I started
implementing the first skill, I saw a change almost immediately (within a week). My husband responded positively. I saw that he was more open to helping me take care of things, when he felt more appreciated and respected. I was amazed at how simple the skills were, yet how big of an impact these little tiny changes can make in a relationship.
N.H.
6 action-packed modules giving you an
understanding of the Mashpia/Mekabel relationship
AND the skills to actualize it in your marriage:
Module 1: Being a Receiver
Spoiler alert: once you start to see yourself as a Mekabel, everything changes. Learn the deeper Torah ideal of the male/female relationship. Then tap into the practical applications of using it to transform your relationship.
Module 2: Achieving your Desires
You want so many things from your husband - his help around the house, money for ‘extras’, a gift for your birthday. You may have tried telling, asking, hinting, or hoping – but it doesn’t always work out the way that you want.
Find out the magic words that are the most likely to get you what you want – and increase emotional intimacy in your relationship at the same time!
Module 3: The Happy Wife
The ultimate steps to a deeper connection start in a surprising place: honoring and nurturing your own physical and emotional needs. Because... a happy wife is an attractive wife.
Module 4: What your Husband wants the Most
Learn what is "oxygen" for your husband - and how you can give it to him. Once you understand the dynamics of the male-female relationship and apply them, the shift in your relationship boomerangs back to you, as your husband is better able to provide your emotional needs
Module 5: The Real Communication Skills
We are taught that the key to marriage is “good communication”. But so often, following the rules of communication does NOT bring us to emotional intimacy.
We will learn how to speak in a way that deepens your connection and diminishes conflict, while addressing your own needs and desires.
Module 6: Couple Connect
A million and one everyday interactions combine to create the environment of the home we've built.
But at the end of the day - what about US?
Learn how to go way beyond "date nights" to carve out the time, space and energy for growing your relationship from the inside out.
6 bi-weekly live classes - $300 value
But wait - there’s more!
Course package includes these bonuses
Bonus #1
Over 25 additional recorded mini-classes
Watch at your convenience and get additional tips after every live class, for using the skills to deepen your connection!
$200 value
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Bonus #2
Exclusive Foundations Workbook
Track your progress and record your successes, as you implement your new skills after every class
$50 value
plus these special guests
($150 value)
Gila Levitt:
What your Kallah
Teacher Never
Taught You
Your emotional intimacy is thriving - but there's a whole facet of marriage we haven't mentioned yet.
We are honored to have Gila Levitt of the Heart of Marriage workshop answer your questions LIVE about hashkafa AND practical aspects of physical intimacy in a Torah marriage.
Gila Levitt has the haskama of Rabbi Yitzchok Breitowitz and Rabbi Zev Leff.
Yael Trusch:
Marriage and Money
Join Yael Trusch, Money & Business Coach and host of the Jewish Money Matters podcast, as she shares tips and insights on how to talk about money with your spouse in a productive (and fun!) way.
Yael has helped hundreds of couples reframe how they think and talk about their money- join her to learn more on how to get the money conversation started (and keep it going!)
Tamar Ansh:
Turning your house into a home
Make your home that homey, loving place...with your food, right from your kitchen. Even if you don't cook at all! (Spoiler: it has nothing to do with recipes or talent!)
Renowned challah expert, motivational chizuk coach and book author Tamar Ansh will be sharing how you can actually transform the feeling in your home just by the way you prepare your food...creating that warm, loving feeling your family looks forward to when coming home!
You deserve a marriage that feels soft, supported and connected.
And you don't have to do it alone.
You don't need to be perfect. You just need the right tools.
Register by Wednesday, December 3rd
to get your
FAST ACTION BONUS
Fast Action Bonus #1:
Fight right
When you are deepening your connection, fighting is something that doesn't happen very often.
But when things occasionally spin out of control, your want the skills to get back to your love-fun-and-laughter usual selves.
3-part exclusive video bonus
$50 value
Fast Action Bonus #2:
Keeping the spark alive - in the "off" weeks
We want closeness – all the time.
But some times of the month we need to work harder to get there.
Enjoy this exquisite pdf guide to nurturing your relationship during the time of niddah – graciously shared by coach Gila Levitt.
$25 value
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Fast Action Bonus #3:
ConquEring the pre-shabbos rush
Why is it that no matter what time Shabbos starts, I’m always rushed at the end?
Yes – you really can conquer the Pre-Shabbos rush! A practical guide graciously shared by time management coach Debra David
$25 value
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Fast Action Bonus #4:
Foundations show notes
Receive a detailed outline of the class and mini-classes.
Great for review and keeping the skills top-of-mind!
$50 value
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These bonuses disappear after December 3rd - don't miss them!
Secret Spark Foundations:
The tools for a deeper connection
Get the practical, hands-on skills and mindset shifts
to build emotional intimacy in your marriage
every single day - without needing your husband’s
participation, approval, or even active awareness.
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6 live bi-weekly interactive Zoom classes with Q&A
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Ongoing emails with tips, stories and reminders
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Get your personal questions answered by text or email
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Optional accountability partner
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GUEST SPEAKERS: Gila Levitt, Yael Trusch, Tamar Ansh
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BONUS: 25+ recorded mini classes
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BONUS: Exclusive Foundations workbook to track your progress
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FAST ACTION BONUS: Fight Right - 3 part video series
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FAST ACTION BONUS: Tips for times of Niddah (pdf)
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FAST ACTION BONUS: Conquer the pre-Shabbos rush (pdf)
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FAST ACTION BONUS: Show notes
Total value: $850
Your investment:
Just $297
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The Secret Spark skills help the vast majority of women improve their marriage. But how can you know if it will work for you?
I can’t promise you what will happen in your relationship, but I can tell you this:
If you participate in the class and you feel that your marriage has not been impacted within 30 days…
Just send me your workbook with your results, and I will refund your full payment.
You literally have nothing to lose -
and everything to gain.
Even in a good marriage, there's so many things I didn't know!
"This course is such an eye opener! Even in a great marriage, there's so many things that I didn't know! These things make such a difference! I have now all the tools in my head, for when I need it. so many interesting information! I really gained a lot! Thank you so much!"
- R.Z.
This whole course is cheaper than one therapy session!
I wish I had taken this course when I got married 5 years ago! I was in therapy for a while and the therapist gave me some tips, but they didn't really last. And this whole course is cheaper than one therapy session!
-SS
I watched in amazement how much just me working affected my husband
My marriage was stale and full of resentment and did not look like a marriage to me . I did the homework and watched in amazement how much just me working affected my husband, which in turn gave me the energy to keep giving and keep receiving .
H.F.
Questions?
Hi!
I’m Alisa Avruch, reading addict, chocolate babka nosher, and compulsive letter-to-the-editor writer. And, with the help of Hashem, I’ve spent over 2 decades teaching women how to have their best possible marriage.
I knew that “happily ever after” is not the end of the story, but rather the beginning of a life of learning and building a relationship. And I devoted myself to bringing the best in Torah ideals and marriage education to women all over the globe.
But it wasn’t until 8 years ago that I discovered the key that makes all the difference
Because inspiration will get you only so far. Fluffy hashkafos might help for a day or a week – but then it’s back to the old patterns, with no end in sight.
So when I rebuilt my course on the Torah concept of the Mashpia/Mekabel framework, I took it beyond beautiful philosophical concepts.
Since then, 483 course participants have experienced the power of… The Secret Spark.
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What is it worth to you
To have an atmosphere of calm, joy and fun in your marriage?
To see your children relaxed and happy because they feel safe and secure, seeing their parents’ beautiful relationship?
To look back 10, 20, 30 years from now - when it’s just you and your husband - and think “I’m so glad we have the relationship that we built together”?
To live every single day feeling your relationship grow closer and deeper?
Just think -
For the cost of
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dips for Shabbos
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your frum magazines
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or one session with a marriage therapist…
You could be enjoying the emotional intimacy and deeper
connection of the marriage of your dreams.
Every single day for the rest of your lives together.
You literally have nothing to lose -
and everything to gain